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Grace Enough: Join us February 23-25… All men 18 years and over are invited to spend a quiet but active weekend with 150 other men by participating in the annual Men’s
Grace Enough: Join us February 23-25…
All men 18 years and over are invited to spend a quiet but active weekend with 150 other men by participating in the annual Men’s Retreat at the Holy Family Passionist Retreat Center in West Hartford. The retreat begins on Friday evening with dinner at 6PM, followed by the first of four presentations by members of the gifted (and fun!) retreat team.
Bring a friend, your sons, or come alone, you will not regret it. You will return home to Fairfield Sunday around 1:30 PM after well-rested time away from the rigors of daily living. The 2018 retreat theme, Grace Enough, will explore the many ways God’s presence empowers us and supports us through every step of life’s journey. Contact Ted Jastrzebski, Holy Family Retreat Center at 860-760-9705 for registration information.
23 (Friday) 6:00 pm - 25 (Sunday) 12:00 pm
Holy Family Passionist Retreat Center
303 Tunxis Road, West Hartford, CT 06107-3119
GOAL The goal of this Life Night is to examine why sexual acts that are not free, total, faithful, and fruitful, like sex before marriage and
The goal of this Life Night is to examine why sexual acts that are not free, total, faithful, and fruitful, like sex before marriage and pornography, are distortions of love.
• Christ’s love for you and the entire Church is free, total, faithful, and fruitful. The vows in the Sacrament of Matrimony reflect this love.
• If a sexual act is missing one of the above promises it is considered a distortion of love.
• Regardless of how we’ve fallen in these areas, Jesus has a plan for each one of us to love fully and to be loved fully in return.
SEX IS FREE, TOTAL, FAITHFUL, AND FRUITFUL
Many of us are aware that the Church teaches we can’t have sex before marriage. This is because every sexual act, in its design by God, is also called to be free, total, faithful, and fruitful. If an unmarried couple has sex, it lacks a requirement of self-giving love and becomes distorted.
Let’s take a closer look at what is lacking when a couple has sex before marriage.
- − Is it free? (Yes, if both people agree to it without any outside pressure.)
- − Is it total? (No, you’re withholding the promise to stay faithful.
- − Is it faithful? (No, because the commitment is not “until death do us part.”
- − Is it open to life? (That depends on if contraception is used. Probably not.)
Sex before marriage sends a confusing and painful message: “I like you enough to have sex with you. But I don’t want to give all of me to you and I don’t want to make any commitment to you. I just want to use you and I am ok with being used by you in the process.”
We also hear that the Church teaches that pornography and masturbation is wrong. Science informs us that pornography has an addictive nature. Individuals need an ever-increasing dosage to get the same level of arousal. This leads to individuals looking at more pornography and pornographic behavior that is increasingly more distorted. This information can be backed up by studies at fightthenewdrug.com. We encourage you to check it out.
Let’s examine why the Church also understands it to be harmful.
- − Is it free? (Yes or no. It could be an addiction. It could be a free choice.)
- − Is it total? (No. Masturbation is all about self-pleasure, never about self-gift.)
- − Is it faithful? (No. No commitment is made. There is no one to be committed to.)
- − Is it open to life? (No.)
We are not bringing these things up to shame you. We are bringing it up because we want what is best for you, the fullness of love, lacking nothing. We want you to have happy and healthy dating relationships and eventually happy and healthy marriages, families, and vocations. Our hope is that this information will help you in times of temptation when you nd yourself asking, “Is it really a sin to do this? Why?” This is the “why.”
If you feel guilty for falling for distorted versions of sexuality, know that there is hope. Regardless of how we’ve fallen in these areas, Jesus has a plan for each one of us to love fully and to be loved fully in return. Coming to Christ in the Sacrament of Reconciliation can forgive us of our past mistakes and guide us towards healing in His perfect love. (John 8: 1-11, Isaiah 53:5)
(Sunday) 6:00 pm - 8:00 pm
GOAL The goal of this Life Night is for the teens to understand how to live love now in four distinct relationships; with God, themselves, those
The goal of this Life Night is for the teens to understand how to live love now in four distinct relationships; with God, themselves, those of the same and those of the opposite gender.
• In developing our relationship with God, we develop our capacity to love and be loved by Him in a self-giving way. We learn to choose Him when we don’t feel like it or when we find it boring and we learn to receive His love through daily prayer and the sacraments.
• Knowing God better, leads to understanding ourselves and our purpose better. Taking time to develop our talents requires developing the virtue of discipline. Discipline in one area of life, is easily transferred to other areas, like choosing self-giving love in our relationship with God and others.
• Loving others requires true masculinity, femininity, and the virtues of discipline and chastity.
Chastity: The successful integration of sexuality within the person and thus the inner unity of man in his bodily and spiritual being.
Virtue: The habit of choosing what is good and right, despite our own inclinations.
Discipline: The ability to choose to train, or to improve a skill, even when it is di cult.
- Self-giving love that is free, total, faithful, and fruitful does not have to wait until marriage. Not everyone is called to marriage, either. Sexual intimacy is reserved for marriage, but we can experience love now, as singles, and in other vocations. (CCC 1643)
- There are four relationships we need to develop in order to live love well; God, ourselves, those of the same gender, and those of the opposite gender. In each relationship, we have the opportunity to practice loving and being loved in a self-giving way.
(Sunday) 6:00 pm - 8:00 pm
26 (Monday) 7:00 pm - 28 (Wednesday) 8:30 pm
Faith Center Community Room